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"It couldn't have been more perfect even if I had planned it for six months! You were completely charming, and so was the ceremony."
"We were both nervous, as is usual of a bride and groom but you managed to put us at ease and make us feel and experience the magical moments of marriage."
"…romantic, dignified, laughter, love and sincerity. Thank you for the superb job Bruce."
"Thank you Bruce for making our daughter and son-in-law's day such a very special one. We felt you were very much part of the family. The service was just fantastic."
"It was lovely to have such a nice, relaxed and entertaining person as our celebrant."
"We have watched the video a number of times, and each time are more impressed with your warmth, sincerity and friendliness. Someone even asked if you were a friend of ours - so impressed were they with your manner."
"Your calmness, your style and your patience helped create a wonderful atmosphere. You brought everyone in - but made us feel as if we were the only ones there. Thanks."
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In sunny summer gardens, restaurants, hot air balloons, public parks, in the bush, watching the gannets, in chapels and churches, in homes or at sea, on islands and cliff tops, in posh places or do-it-yourself halls, black-tie or relaxed, big budget, low budget, on a year's notice or a few days, with hundreds of guests or 2 neighbours roped in as witnesses, in monk's habit, hat and jeans, relaxed casual, or High Street suit, I have conducted marriage ceremonies.

And I do so because I believe in marriage. The idea of a man and a woman spending a lifetime as committed companions, probably raising children, and enjoying a solid and stable life - it seems to be built into the human race to want that.

And, despite the false starts and failures that many people experience, it is still, many would say, humans' top relationship.


A marriage is a cause for celebration. And you want a celebrant that will help smooth over the nerves - that nearly always come - and nearly always are a surprise - And so you want a celebrant who is competent, organised, experienced, respectful of you and who deeply values all the ideals of marriage.

A good marriage ceremony really comes down to these things:

  • The tone and mood set by the celebrant
  • The words that are spoken
  • And the whole senses package - looks, sounds, colours, smiles, music, enthusiasm.
The first one rests significantly on the personality of the celebrant The second one evolves as a joint venture between you and your celebrant The third is essentially up to you, every guest, your wedding party, your venue hosts and your celebrant.


What is a Marriage Celebrant?
Going About Choosing Your Celebrant
Does the Celebrant Provide the Venue?
My Experience and Credentials
How Much Does a Celebrant Cost?
The Marriage Licence

What is a marriage celebrant?

A Celebrant is a person acting in either a civil or religious capacity, who conducts a ceremony or service. In New Zealand, civil marriage celebrants are registered with the Government. I have been on the Civil List for 13 years.

Marriage celebrants are appointed by the Registrar of Births Deaths and Marriages. Ministers and priests are generally on the 'Organisations' List, and individuals are generally on the 'Civil' List. There is no tie-up at all between being a JP and being a celebrant. You can not have a legal marriage without a Marriage Licence issued in the name of a recognised Celebrant.

The passing of the Civil Union Act created a new category of Celebrant. Please Note: I am not a Celebrant authorised for Civil Unions.

Going About Choosing Your Celebrant

Most people these days are very busy and want the help of a celebrant who is experienced, organised and helpful in the preparation phase, and is relaxed, competent and secure in the public role. Then the whole day gets a good lift.

Not many people are game to book a celebrant sight unseen, so a phone call to 528 3395 works best to establish the first contact or leave a message. Email is a good way of at least registering an interest and finding out about my availability on a given day. If you are going to make a first enquiry by email, please state Day, Time and Location of the ceremony, and it is nice also to have the names of both parties. It is best to avoid calling my mobile to make a first enquiry as I'm often driving and away from the diary.

The next thing we do is fix a time for you to come and meet me - a week night usually - a first chat generally takes 45 - 60 minutes, and some time after that, you can make your decision.

My phone numbers are Auckland (09) 528 3395
or Mobile 0274 761 700
You can email me if you prefer at
bruce.mcgrail@xtra.co.nz

Does the Celebrant Provide the Venue?

If you are desperate and have no where else to go, or need a back-up wet weather venue in the Eastern Bays area, my house in Kepa Road has a private patio and garden suitable for up to ten people with parking next door. Adequate notice required. Additional cost around $150 including gst.

My Experience and Credentials

I conducted my first marriage ceremony in 1988 while listed with a church organisation. I was appointed to the Civil List in 1994 after taking a change in work direction. As a Civil Celebrant I have conducted over 500 non-religious marriage ceremonies in the last 10 years, along with a few of Christian orientation. I also conduct in the region of 200 funeral services a year.

How Much Does a Celebrant Cost?

Although there are celebrant organizations, each celebrant sets their own fee. A recent wedding magazine suggested you allow $350 - $500 for celebrant or church and that's probably a fair guide. Cost of Marriage Licence is additional, and that is paid to the office of Births Deaths and Marriages.

Cost of Marriage Licence is additional, and that is paid to the office of Births Deaths and Marriages.

My Normal Fee Structure for March 2008-March 2009

You can probably expect my fee for a ceremony within the Auckland boundaries of Westgate/Massey, Albany, Long Bay, Papakura, Whitford etc, to be around $495 incl Gst.

The number of guests or brevity and simplicity of a ceremony will not normally have any bearing on the fee, as my commitment of time and travel is the same irrespective.

A ceremony where I do not have any preparatory meetings with the couple at all, but simply turn up on the day may at my discretion, be discounted.

Beyond these Auckland perimeters, for instance to Gulf Harbour, Kaukapakapa or beyond the Bombay Hills, a fair and reasonable add-on might be made for rehearsal time and travel - perhaps $70-80 additional. My fee includes all consultations, use of my marriage ceremony material (see sampler download), and on occasions, a walkthrough or rehearsal. You can expect a pretty stress-free process in which your wishes are fully heard. I am a very experienced, fair and generous-minded celebrant, who, in the words of one photographer to a client couple, gives 'added value". I can also throw in a small but hugely helpful extra - a portable signing table and stool. A booking is generally confirmed with a $100 deposit.

Under some circumstances a fee might be higher - for instance a ceremony on a boat where I am away for two or three hours, or a ceremony way out of town, therefore making unlikely, a second booking for the day.

Ceremonies on Waiheke Island may be affected like that, but my normal position is to charge the basic fee plus disbursements - ferry costs, parking costs Downtown, and taxis on the island.

Further Afield: A ceremony a long way out of Auckland that more or less requires the full day of me, will start with a 'day lock-out' rate of something like $600 plus Gst plus an estimate of kilometres at .40cpk, plus a reasonable allowance for overnight accommodation.

The Marriage Licence

A marriage licence needs to be issued, and the Births Deaths and Marriages Office - now attached to Internal Affairs (Identity Services) does that. They require three working days from the time the application is lodged - in person. Where there has been a previous marriage, dissolution of marriage papers or a death certificate will have to be presented also. The cost of a licence (as at January 2008) is $120.00. You need a form BDM60 called Notice of Intended Marriage. Any office of BDM can provide this or you can download if from their website www.dia.govt.nz. You must name the celebrant and you are allowed to nominate two possible locations for the wedding ceremony. It must then be at the place named. For telephone contact details you will find Births Deaths and Marriages listed in the blue pages section of the Telecom White Pages directory. The Marriage Licence should be in my hands before the day of the ceremony.

The Auckland office is 6th Floor AA Building, Albert Street, and there is an office in the Government Departments buildings at Manukau City. The District Court in Henderson might still do this.



Wedding Ceremonies Made Easy

What procedure to expect with me

Most couples want two issues addressed as a starting point in working out the ceremony:

  1. Some idea of what I might say
  2. The opportunity to have input into how the vows might be worded

Many also are hoping for some ideas for possible readings. In an attempt to answer all this, I have prepared a Marriage Ceremony Ideas Pack. This is available to every couple that makes a booking with deposit. This contains all sorts of ideas for the different modules that make up the ceremony. Most couples find this meets their needs. It can be emailed at any point. This way, you can cut and paste and add and subtract to your heart's content. It also means couples overseas until just before the wedding can still work everything out with me. Otherwise, I will post it to you around 5/6 weeks out from the wedding. Then, around 2-3 weeks W-day we generally meet to sort out all the details and finalise the vows and text.

How you use the Ideas Pack might mean we only need one good meeting of an hour or so to have it all sussed. It can be that simple, and yet you will have had every opportunity to be as involved in the process as you wish.

This Ideas Pack is not available for purchase as yet, but that will change and this site will then provide for that.

Download the Marriage Ceremonies Sampler from my Ideas Pack (word doc)
Download Thank-you Comments about My Ceremonies (word doc)
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